If your apology involves degrading yourself, calling yourself shit or insulting yourself, its not an apology, try again.
Can someone translate this?
Don’t try to guilt people by saying “I’m sorry I fucking suck.” “I’m sorry I’m just the worst and I should die” Because thats not an apology, thats trying to guilt the other person into dropping the subject.
Cannot recommend WDHDT highly enough. I’ve found it helpful not just for romantic relationships, but also for growing up w a “unexplainable/uncontrollable” dad.
IT HAS ALSO BEEN REALLY HELPFUL FOR UNDERSTANDING ONLINE MOB HARASSMENT.
So if you’ve ever been bombarded w threats to be raped/killed, (so…if you’re a minority and you’ve been on the Internet for a while), this book might be useful for getting clarity around the whole entitled, abusive mindset that drives certain kinds of people to behave that way. And by “getting clarity”, I mean (for me) being able to go “oh, that’s what’s happening” and not really feel scared anymore. Or angry, or drawn out into it, or anything.
And if you’re still standing around going “but how does something like GamerGate happen?” or “but why do men hit their wives?” or whatever – please read that book and learn something.
^^^^ truth WDHDT is fantastic at cutting down MRA bullshit and calling it what it really is
Please consider reading these. WDHDT is really, really helpful. And I know some of you are struggling with abusive relationships, friendships, families, etc. You’re not alone. There is help.
Yo. This family holiday, please, please take care of yourself. You aren’t there to be anybody else’s cushion.
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents
Reading any of these books does not mean you don’t love your parents or family. It’s just self care for helping you cope and not repeat the behaviors.
All the books in this thread are great; adding this one because it was the most helpful to me. Free pdf here
toxic parents is the book i checked out from the library last january that REALLY SINCERELY helped kickstart my road to recovery. even if you are not a victim of abuse, they are invaluable reasources, but help pass them around so people who have been abused can have access to material that actually, genuinely, sees them and provides them with concrete help
Reblogging because Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents is fantastic. Plus, in addition to helping you better understand human psychology, books like these can impart insights into sociology as well.
If you want to know why I talk about fear anytime I’m talking about authoritarianism, read things like this. Learning about the roots of narcissism, immaturity, and toxicity in human relationships can really help you understand culture as a whole.
Im watching the parade and Julia is on the Sesame Street float and they actually outfitted her muppet with noise reduction headphones 😭😭😭😭😭
i cry
[id: tweet by sesame street @sesamestreet reading “we are thrilled to have our friend julia join us at the thanksgiving day parade this year! with the help of her friend rosita and the comfort of her noise-cancelling headphones, julia is ready for a fun and festive day in nyc! #MacysParade #HappyThanksgiving2018” followed by a picture of rosita and julia, who is wearing noise cancelling headphones and holding her stuffed rabbit. both of them are smiling. /end id]
i’ve had this going through my head for a week and i had to physically get it out of myself to make it stop
[Audio description: part of the song “U Can’t Touch This” by Mc Hammer, except instead of the words “can’t touch this” it plays Griffin and Justin saying “come fuck this” from their spore playthrough. It syncs up perfectly.]
Some species do catch plankton in that manner to supplement their diet, but the most common form of sand dollar feeding is swallowing sand and scraping the biofilm of algae and bacteria off the individual grains.
i wonder if korra had always known she was bisexual or if she saw asami one day and thought lmao ok if i was straight at one point i’m not anymore
i have this headcanon that when she was younger and found out katara was married to her in her past life korra would get excited and be all “does that me you’re my wife?” and then if someone was rude to katara young korra would yell something like “don’t talk to my wife like that!” and just basically assume being with women was okay simply because she’s already been with them in past lives
I love seeing the lok fandom on my dash simply for cute shit like this man
Solutions Without Problems 